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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    *but because you haven’t realized it, your issues are still there.” (Made a BIG ERROR in this line. Its ”your issues are still there.”)

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @etherealpanda
    // I would mostly say this is because I don’t know what to do, go in a room and sit and think for hours on end?//
    > Yupe!
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    //It never seems to get me anywhere.//
    You did something, found out it didn’t work. So you try something else. That’s the basics of reaching any goal. (Here your ‘goal’ would be fixing an issue in your…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

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    @etherealpanda
    The purpose of these questions was to help you realize, that you do not have ‘a’ problem. You have ‘many’ problems. Each problem needs to be separately addressed, one by one. Even the fact that you have not ‘individually’ addressed these issues and solved them up until now, is an issue. (Which I would like to tackle…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @etherealpanda
    Sure! I have experienced most of that, and plenty more. (Including suicidal thoughts & porn addiction & verbal discouragement from my family & physical abuse from bullying.) And I wonder who hasn’t XD (Excluding people who had such a hard time surviving, that they didn’t have the opportunity to address these thoughts.)
    First I…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @etherealpanda
    ‘Depression’ is a label. And labels sometime try to simplify something, that has more description to it. So what is this ‘depression’ that ‘you’ experience exactly? What exact experiences do you have, that you attribute to the label of ‘depression’? Could you throw away the name of the dish itself, and tell me all of its…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: seacat posted an update I haven’t posted here in almost 2 years. I’ve been seeking professional counseling at my college for social anxiety/depression for the last year and a half. It’s been really helpful, but […] View

    @suiei
    Today its college, tomorrow its workplace. Can’t keep medicating yourself forever.
    If its really THAT BIG of an issue, then why not take a semester break. And dedicate it to practicing your social skills. And learn from the experiences of socially confident and popular people, and copy them for 6 months. I can understand a part of you…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @etherealpanda
    I’m getting the picture.
    How do I deal with such situations, where I’m working towards a goal and things aren’t working out? (Again, since you are being completely vague about your situation. I have to generalize as well.)
    I have certain principles that I follow that help me with these kind of things.
    1) Before doing…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 6 years, 4 months ago

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    @etherealpanda
    //Not sure if you’re still around//
    > Sorry for the late reply.
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    //but in my case and how I see your message dependency comes of as being a negative state//
    > I do believe its a ‘negative’ and ‘unhealthy’ state if you attribute its solution to another person’s presence. And let me illustrate to you why,
    Interacting with…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: mariko posted an update Is love even real ? Lately seems so abstract… I can’t come to peace with my own mind. View

    ah! Super duper thank you! O_O @huggable-cactus
    Thank you for pointing that out, that’s super helpful!

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: mariko posted an update Is love even real ? Lately seems so abstract… I can’t come to peace with my own mind. View

    //And present yours as the personal opinions…// @huggable-cactus
    ~ I apologize for not clearing that up. Yes, everything I stated above stems from my personal knowledge and observation.
    Do you mind suggesting, of where and what specific words I could add or change in my last comment, to make it clear to the reader that whatever I say is not a…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: mariko posted an update Is love even real ? Lately seems so abstract… I can’t come to peace with my own mind. View

    Most people do treat the concept of ‘love’ as something just abstract, though in reality that’s not the complete case. @marikofujimoto
    Every feeling motivates actions, and every action motivates a feeling.
    If you are happy, you would smile! If you smile, you would be happy! (its a two way thing.)
    So similarly, ‘love’ is an emotion that…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: Mary posted an update i have no motivation for anything. i just told my mom i am disliking my course in uni and she almost freaked out. i feel so bad but at the same time glad i was honest with her. i feel i have […] View

    This is how motivation works… @marym
    If you have a goal/dream or purpose in life (that you have made for yourself), then whenever you properly ‘invest’ in that goal/purpose/dream and get closer to achieving it, you get motivated to do invest more in it!
    Similarly, you can motivate other people by investing in their…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: whatthefuck posted an update my whole world is falling apart. what now? View

    You build a new one. @whatthefuck

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: Spectrolite7 posted an update Going to drink the pain away later if i can get myself out of bed… im going to drink it all away. I just suck as a person, im not good enough for the world… im failing at life.. i […] View

    //ive had it with the pain and frustration// @spectrolite7
    ~ Why do the feeling ’pain’ and ’frustration’ exist in the first place? Might you be aware of that?

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    SigmaSuccour replied to the forum topic Something I Find Concerningly Super 'Counter-Productive', in the Community of Blahtherapy. in the group Group logoGeneral 7 years, 3 months ago

    //It is a terrible thing to point at someone and go “It’s your own fault somehow.”//
    ~ It is a severely more terrible thing to suggest to someone and go “Its not your fault at all. Its the fault of the world. […]

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    SigmaSuccour posted a new activity comment 7 years, 3 months ago

    In reply to: Spectrolite7 posted an update The fact i do work some times isnt enough… it’s not enough to afford my own place… all this just makes me so nauseous im going to end it… my mind is fucked up… im mentally destroyed […] View

    @spectrolite7
    (Other members will take care of the ‘being sensitive’ and ‘sympathizing’ and ‘being understanding’ part, i’m just going to discuss about what you could actually do to resolve your situation.)
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    // i just feel like ending my life//
    > Since you feel like taking extreme measures to solve your problems. Why not, pack your…[Read more]

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    SigmaSuccour replied to the forum topic Something I Find Concerningly Super 'Counter-Productive', in the Community of Blahtherapy. in the group Group logoGeneral 7 years, 3 months ago

    //PTSD is not something you can /fix/.
    Hasn’t anyone informed you that if you believe something cannot be fixed, then you become blind to every opportunity to resolve/fix it? Or perhaps you prefer some other […]

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    SigmaSuccour replied to the forum topic Something I Find Concerningly Super 'Counter-Productive', in the Community of Blahtherapy. in the group Group logoGeneral 7 years, 3 months ago

    @huggable-cactus
    I will also not take advice from someone who doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
    And understanding the problem, is the first step to coming up a solution for it. I completely […]

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    SigmaSuccour replied to the forum topic Something I Find Concerningly Super 'Counter-Productive', in the Community of Blahtherapy. in the group Group logoGeneral 7 years, 3 months ago

    @huggable-cactus
    Is there anyone who has NOT faced depression, anxiety, sadness, frustration, hopelessness and etc?
    A person CANNOT experience relaxation without stress, no peace without pain, no success […]

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    SigmaSuccour replied to the forum topic Something I Find Concerningly Super 'Counter-Productive', in the Community of Blahtherapy. in the group Group logoGeneral 7 years, 3 months ago

    //…I just thought of responding and giving my opinion// @marikofujimoto
    //…which is definitely a useful quality to have.// @silent-radiance
    > Again, my sincere thanks to each of you. .
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