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    justkeepswimming posted an update 1 week ago

    I want to be the type of person who just doesn’t give a fuck about what other people think, but I’m the exact opposite. I care about everything people think no matter who they are; be it stranger, close friend, or family. If something awkward or intimidating happens, I can’t help but get super nervous and run from confrontation. I would LOVE to get past this, but part of me has always been a HUGE people pleaser. Does anybody have any cool exercises, coping mechanisms, or mantras they use in social situations to remind them that peoples’ opinions about you don’t really matter? I can’t help but think the opposite. HELP!

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    • Oli replied 1 week ago

      I don’t like argument or confrontation as well @rolivia128, I tend to walk away from that sort of thing if it happens, it’s good that you want to please others, but do remember the only person who truly matters is yourself, you should do what makes you happy, regardless of what others may think, be yourself and keep going, everything will be OK, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • We usually think that other people are really focused on ourselves. When I was younger I used to think that I had to please everyone so I could like them. With every year I grow older, the more I realize that other people are too worried about their own lives to be focused on me. Of course, there always be some of them that will talk about you, and some of the things won’t be nice. But if YOU focus on your on happiness, the less you’ll care about that. It’s easir sayinf it than do it, but give yourself time, and above everything, give yourself credit.

    • That’s so interesting that you say that you had to please everybody so you could like them. That makes so much sense but I’ve never thought of it that way. I guess I just have so many criticisms for myself that I tend to judge others immediately based off of my own insecurities. Therefore, depending on what kind of day it is, I’ll either like myself or hate myself for it. Maybe I’m just trying too hard to please myself? Thanks for the feedback. Was really helpful.

    • Thanks Oli! You’re very optimistic.