@jennyburer I think an important distinction is that you can still love someone but decide to stop acting on that love, when it’s better that way. It saves a lot of waiting and moral dilemmas.

@grace-mcfairy Good job on your sobriety! They say it should be a year without dating right? And, how long has he been sober? I think it’s good to talk about it, and to remember that waiting and thinking about it is probably the less damaging course of action here so don’t rush to a decision.

@aireens If you are from the USA or Canada, you can check the article I have linked in my Bio.

@peiyopei Congratulations

@paperkites21 Sounds like a handful, I hope it doesn’t become a pattern where when you discuss some problem it turns into a shame spiral. Maybe you can consider taking a stand and making it clear that you will cancel your plans together if he shows up in such a state to your times together.

@marikofujimoto I think Goodreads could work for books, each book has a discussion board, although joining a group on there about a specific genre can be more engaging. Last.fm has as similar set
-up. I used the IMDB boards for video things but after they got closed, I lack one space like that (out of the comments in TheMarySue posts)

@princepossum Maybe you can ask him some version of “Hey brother do you realize that lately whenever you talk about her, it’s in a negative tone? What’s up with that?”, but do keep for yourself the “the sooner you break up, the better it is”. If they are moving for her needs only, maybe you can check if he’s sure about making this big step…[Read more]

@nathanlaufey Maybe you can apologize for butting in with your unasked-for advice (it didn’t sound like a good step to rekindle a friendship), and if she aknowledges it, ask her how things are going. Is this to get back at Jane or something, the pursuing of a relationship with her friend?

@paperkites21 Some people would offer to help him with his rent for a few months just to buy themselves out of a remorse which would prevent them to break free, it’s an option if that’s one of the few things keeping you there.

@pleasant-arithmetic http://www.themostdangerouswritingapp.com sort of, if you pick the hardcore mode, your words are blurred, but consider http://750words.com/ too in general.

@prettyangel197 No, it can happen, what matters is what you do with this feeling, if you act on it and influence their life in a negative way, it would be a problem. You can also work in the other direction and branch out to other people/groups/activities so your mind is busy with other things, and you’ll feel less pained by what your friends are doing.

@bornxlivedxdied It’s okay, take it easy and see how things go as you slowly ease into your previous habits, recovery is a big goal now, and school I guess, so you can just focus on feeling if your back/neck is okay; and weight should not be looked at as a punishment or something bad (*no devil’s advocates chiming in, please*) so try to disrupt…[Read more]

@layla95 Maybe there’s a Yelp-thingy for business in your area where you can leave your opinion about their practices.