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    Theodore posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Looking for advice…
    Brother moving up North with his girlfriend in a few weeks, but I have the feeling they won’t work together. He expressed fears with the relationship before with me, and they are just really different people. They’ve been dating about 4 years and she is his first girlfriend. These last few months, whenever he talks about her, it’s in a negative tone, talking about something annoying she does. Venting is fine, but it seems like a long time he’s said anything nice, and I’m just concerned the longer they’re together, the more difficult it would be to break things off if it comes to that. I just don’t see any happiness in him when they call or when he mentions her ever really. I feel like I should say something, he’s been angry and sad lately, but at the same time I don’t want to offend him or intervene in their business if everything’s okay. I don’t want to mess things up saying something, but I don’t want to not say something and mess things up more. What would you do?

    • @princepossum Maybe you can ask him some version of ”Hey brother do you realize that lately whenever you talk about her, it’s in a negative tone? What’s up with that?”, but do keep for yourself the ”the sooner you break up, the better it is”. If they are moving for her needs only, maybe you can check if he’s sure about making this big step from an unhappy place.

    • I would try to talk to him about your concerns @princepossum, let him know that you care and you want the best for him out of this relationship, hopefully he will open up to you and you can give him advice on how to work through issues with his girlfriend, I’m sure everything will be OK Theodore, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @riseandrep @oliver thanks guys, I think I will try to talk to him about it as subtly as I can