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    PaperKites21 posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    In reply to: PaperKites21 posted an update I have been dating this guy, Charles for 4 months. So far, it’s been great, i am falling in love with him and I do care about him.. There is a 20 year age difference, I am 23 and he […] View

    Thank you so much! You were very helpful.. thanks for not judging. You’re the best!

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    PaperKites21 posted an update 6 months ago

    I have been dating this guy, Charles for 4 months. So far, it’s been great, i am falling in love with him and I do care about him.. There is a 20 year age difference, I am 23 and he is 47.. that’s not an issue for either of us, but there are some complications.. This past Sunday night was a bit upsetting for me, I went over to his house like i…[Read more]

    • Oli replied 6 months ago

      I would be there for him and try to help as much as you can @paperkites21, hopefully with your support and love, he will overcome his struggles and the relationship will become stronger, things will work out for both of you, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @paperkites21 Sounds like a handful, I hope it doesn’t become a pattern where when you discuss some problem it turns into a shame spiral. Maybe you can consider taking a stand and making it clear that you will cancel your plans together if he shows up in such a state to your times together.

    • It sounds all good. You went into this with your eyes open. He is 47 and has a lot of baggage, especially since he was “available” at his age. Drunkenness is just a way of dealing with his baggage, which is evident by his crying and porn (probably addicted). His relationship with you may have cost him another relationship, but he made choices as…[Read more]

    • Thank you so much! You were very helpful.. thanks for not judging. You’re the best!

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    PaperKites21 posted an update 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Ok, I am having thoughts about breaking up with my boyfriend. We have been dating since 2010 we also live together- have been for 2 years now. Five months ago, things between us have been fading, it could be me, it could be him; maybe it’s just both of us. I swear I love him, but lately we haven’t had a normal relationship. There is no sweet talk,…[Read more]

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    • You deserve a relationship that is strong and loving @paperkites21, I would try to talk to your boyfriend about being close and intimate, hopefully he will listen and try to make changes, I’m sure things will work out, do what you feel is best for you going forward, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Have you talked to him about this specifically, the way you’re describing now? Have you tried asking him what’s going on, or told him how it’s making you feel and why you don’t like to stay at home? There are many possible reasons to why he could be acting that way. Perhaps he’s more of an introvert, and is simmering down to a level more…[Read more]

    • @paperkites21 Some people would offer to help him with his rent for a few months just to buy themselves out of a remorse which would prevent them to break free, it’s an option if that’s one of the few things keeping you there.

    • What does your side guy suggest? I think shampoo person makes sense – offer two months, but move on now. You are not responsible for his career decisions, just yours. Let him be an adult.

    • @paperkites21 I’ve said this before but I’ll repeat it: if you’re not happy with someone, break up with him. If you already tried dozens of times to work things out, and it still didn’t work, break up. Why keep living a lie? Lying to yourself that you’re “happy” with him? You have your whole life in front of you and you’re blocking…[Read more]

    • Hi I totally get how you feel. I know spending 6 years with someone is a very long time and you are bound to get even more attached. But if there is no love in a relationship or if he is treating you that way girl you deserve someone much better that that. If you don’t feel loved or you having a feeling its not right i would say follow what your…[Read more]

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    PaperKites21 posted an update 7 months ago

    As some of you may know, i have some complications in my life, some it is on me. i know how to fix it, but sometimes i don’t know what’s best for me or anyone, anymore.. I will say the past 4 moths have been very complicated, but i am happier. I have a side-guy. (try not judge) – i guess technically we have been dating for 4 months, he and I…[Read more]

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    • No, even with an open relationship it would be crossing the boundaries its just sex and nothing more. You are leading him on meeting his parents also the fact you have been “dating” him is a major red flag. If he is a side guy, its just that a side guy; he is growing on you and you need to make a decision either now or later, but it will be…[Read more]

    • Oli replied 7 months ago

      I would do what you feel is right for you @paperkites21, hopefully you will meet his parents at some point and you will make a decision about where your feelings are regarding your current boyfriend, personally I would focus on the person that makes you the most happiest, everything will work out, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat…[Read more]

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    PaperKites21 started the forum topic Should I break up with him? in the group Group logoVent It! 7 months, 2 weeks ago

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    I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we also have been living together for 2 years. I am 23 & he his 26. There has been some […]

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    In reply to: PaperKites21 posted an update Hey! I have not been on this site for over 2 years now. I forgot about it, then realized i needed it again. If someone could help me figure how to ask Questions on the Q&A that would […] View

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    PaperKites21 posted an update 7 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey! I have not been on this site for over 2 years now. I forgot about it, then realized i needed it again. If someone could help me figure how to ask Questions on the Q&A that would be great!

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