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    DignifiedQuark posted an update 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    —So, about a year ago, I met two girls (Jane and Michelle). They’re best friends. I started to talk to both of them (just as friends!) And eventually started to date Jane.

    —Jane doesn’t let her friends communicate with each other. It’s really weird. I don’t know why she does this. Because of that, Michelle and I stopped talking to each other.

    —Jane and I broke up a while ago. It’s cool, we’re both over it.

    —Recently, Jane and Michelle had an argument and they weren’t talking to each other. I messaged Michelle (This is the first time I’d spoken to her in 6 months), and said that she should make up with Jane.

    —Jane then got really mad at me. She said that Michelle and I shouldn’t be allowed to talk to each other, because Jane doesn’t let her friends communicate with each other. Obviously that’s absolute bullshit. She has no control over me. So we had an argument and now she’s moving away to live with her new boyfriend.

    —I don’t even care. Neither of us want to talk to each other again. She did end up becoming friends with Michelle again, however.

    —So here’s the problem: I haven’t spoken to Michelle since the time I asked her to make up with Jane. That was a month ago. Before that, I hadn’t spoken to her for over 6 months. We hadn’t spoken much, only a few times.

    —I really like Michelle and want to start talking to her, but I don’t know how! I don’t know what to say or how to start a conversation!

    Mood : Nervous
    • I would try to approach her and take things slowly @nathanlaufey, hopefully you will be able to build up a good friendship as time goes on, try to work through your issues with the other girl too if you can, stay positive and keep going, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Just text her! Sometimes we complicate the things which are most simple.

    • Cheers man <3

    • @nathanlaufey Maybe you can apologize for butting in with your unasked-for advice (it didn’t sound like a good step to rekindle a friendship), and if she aknowledges it, ask her how things are going. Is this to get back at Jane or something, the pursuing of a relationship with her friend?

    • Yeah, if Jane finds out she’ll be really mad. I don’t mind so much, but it might prevent Michelle from wanting to talk to me.