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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update Why are people so offended by nudity? Why is a bit of nudity such a big deal? Why is it okay when a celebrity does it, but when the average person does it, it’s like they gave half of […] View

    @marikofujimoto rinseandrep pretty much explained it for me. I’ve personally heard from a lot of guys who see a girl differently if she’s lost her virginity, and usually not in a good way.

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    So I’ve been complaining a lot these days. My mind’s been really active, as I’m constantly raising my fist to the sky, so I want to just write one post where I end on a positive note. First of all, I hate the idea of “leaked” content. And I mean content of people’s personal private lives. I hate that some people, instead of sympathizing with the…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    One thing I realized in life is that you should try to keep in mind that the things you say and do can be taken out of context by scummy people, so you have to be careful but you also can’t worry about it too much, because that sort of thing will never be totally in your control.

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Life feels stagnant. I spend my free time thinking too much, worrying about my past coming back to haunt me, wondering whether or not everything is worth it. I worry so much to the point that I fear even fear itself. And so I started to ask myself, “What would nullify all of these fears?”

    The feeling that I’m moving forward with my life. That…[Read more]

    • Don’t let your past get you down @jennyburer, do your best to move forward and look towards all the bright opportunities that await you in the future, everything will go amazingly for you and you will make all your dreams come true, hold your head up high and remember to shine, you can do it, believe in yourself and never give up, I’m always…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update Is fitting into the cookie-cutter supermodel mold what it means to be beautiful to you? Is uniqueness not a virtue anymore? And no, don’t you dare pull up that cop out line telling me […] View

    I also feel the need to say that you don’t need to settle for anyone who doesn’t genuinely believe you are the most beautiful man or woman in the world. I’ve had a guy who wanted me to gain weight, another guy who wanted me to lose weight (even though I was already underweight), a guy who wanted me to cut my hair, guys who wanted me to grow my…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Is fitting into the cookie-cutter supermodel mold what it means to be beautiful to you? Is uniqueness not a virtue anymore? And no, don’t you dare pull up that cop out line telling me that looks don’t matter. That’s not the point. If anyone were to use looking like a supermodel as the high-end on some nonexistent beauty spectrum, I’d honestly…[Read more]

    Mood : Annoyed
    • I also feel the need to say that you don’t need to settle for anyone who doesn’t genuinely believe you are the most beautiful man or woman in the world. I’ve had a guy who wanted me to gain weight, another guy who wanted me to lose weight (even though I was already underweight), a guy who wanted me to cut my hair, guys who wanted me to grow my…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Why are people so offended by nudity? Why is a bit of nudity such a big deal? Why is it okay when a celebrity does it, but when the average person does it, it’s like they gave half of their soul away to the Internet? Why are people only really interested when these pictures are published without these girls’ consent? And am I not allowed to think…[Read more]

    Mood : Annoyed
    • @jennyburer because people get butthurt over simple things. Nudity is natural, we are born naked after all. People are just perverted and see sexuality everywhere, even if the person is showing a simple cleavage.

      p.s- feminism is the equality of male and female, therefore when it comes to lose your virginity feminism is really not helpfull…[Read more]

    • @marikofujimoto I think that facet doesn’t erase the double standard regarding losing your virginity between men (applauded) and women (shamed if not done properly), specially in other countries where virginity in a bride is culturally mandated. Guys who are virgins would benefit from feminism, along with other types of relief from other…[Read more]

    • @rinseandrep of course men benefit from feminism, after all it defends men’s rights aswell. I just said in this situation didn’t make alot of sense since she was talking (I suppose) about nowdays norms in civilazed countries.I think both men and women suffer, but I’ve seen more men bullied for being virgins. Being called ugly, gay (idk how this…[Read more]

    • @marikofujimoto Have you ever seen a girl bullied for losing hers?

    • @rinseandrep I haven’t. Again it might be because of the place where I live and like I said, I haven’t seen it. But obviously I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. Society is incredibly harsh nowdays and judge people all the time so. I think virginity is something very intimite so no one should judge a person for losing (or keeping ) their virginity.

    • @marikofujimoto rinseandrep pretty much explained it for me. I’ve personally heard from a lot of guys who see a girl differently if she’s lost her virginity, and usually not in a good way.

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    Alexandria posted an update 3 months, 1 week ago

    I always sort of knew this about myself but I never really said it aloud. I have trust issues. I overthink relationships. It’s why I tend to badmouth the one person I really care about, because I try to use that as a defense mechanism–to be able to say that I was never really in love when they leave me. I’d been cheated on a multitude of times…[Read more]

    Mood : Guilty
    • Please don’t feel guilty @jennyburer, try to work through any difficulties you face in a relationship so things can become stronger, stay positive and know you will find true love, you will meet someone who makes you smile, everything will be OK, remember there is always hope Alexandria, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent,…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 4 months ago

    Lesson learned: don’t expect that you’ll be special to someone just by being patient and loving. If someone is selfish, they are selfish. If you’re the one who’s constantly asking themselves if they’re doing something wrong, you’re putting way more effort into the relationship than the other person is. Don’t change yourself just because the other…[Read more]

    • Oli replied 4 months ago

      He had absolutely no right to treat badly @jennyburer, you deserve someone who will show you love and support Alexandria, focus on the things that bring you happiness, stand up for yourself and don’t let anyone bring you down, I’m sure you will meet your soulmate, a strong relationship with a wonderful partner will come your way, smile and keep…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer ”If someone is selfish, they are selfish” – you said everything here. Don’t waist time on someone like that, you deserve much more than that

    • @mariko and @oliver is right he’s selfish and you truly deserve better. My past
      relationship was very similar to yours and it left me so mentally unstable that i could’ve died. You know it’s wrong which is the 1st step because a lot of people don’t even know that. Get out of that relationship NOW!

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    Alexandria posted an update 4 months ago

    Why can’t breakups ever be peaceful?

    Mood : Sad
    • Oli replied 4 months ago

      Try to stay friendly and peaceful with each other @jennyburer, I’m sure things will work out for the both of you, some relationships are difficult but in the end, the people involved all deserve happiness, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Sadly, most of the time they’re not but with time, everything gets better.

    • @jennyburer The pride gets in the way most of the times, such as drama :/ . I hope you recover though , and if you ever need help you can message me

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    Alexandria posted an update 4 months, 1 week ago

    Anyone I can talk to who is almost always available?

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months ago

    Paranoia has always been my worst enemy. My mind has refused to be silent these past few days. Every time my mind starts to get peaceful, I remember that I was worried and angry about something. And I start worrying again. I know that I’ll get over this, but I’ve been through this before, and I know it usually takes at least a month for my mind to…[Read more]

    Mood : Anxious
    • Oli replied 9 months ago

      Don’t let your worries or struggles get you down @jennyburer, try to relax and calm yourself, find ways to put your mind at ease, maybe listening to something soothing or meditation will help, you will be OK Alexandria because you are a survivor, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always…[Read more]

    • Have you looked into speaking with someone who can help alleviate some of these tendencies? Maybe a professional, or looking into common techniques that might work from you from people who have felt similarly. There might be a way for you to get some help living with these bouts of paranoia. A month seems like quite some time to be in that state.

    • //Paranoia has always been my worst enemy.// @jennyburer
      > Your mindset, world view, thoughts and actions are the reason you are where you are today. If you want to be at the same place tomorrow, you keep those mindsets, you keep those world views, you keep doing those actions.
      But if you want to bring a change in yourself, if you want to be…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    @Oli @SigmaSuccour @rinseandrep Thank you all. I’ve decided that I’m moving on. She’s a closed chapter to me now.

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    @SigmaSuccour
    I want to know if she hates me, because, like I said, I trusted her with a lot, so I’m a little bit on edge when it comes to the idea of her hating me. If I know that this wasn’t an act of vindictiveness, I feel like I can stop worrying.

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months ago

    Vent/Listen Chat not working for anyone else?

    Mood : Annoyed
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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    Getting a clear answer from her would be amazing, but she keeps blocking me, and I don’t know how much I should really press on. Her boyfriend, who seems to be practically the only person she ever talks to, although having to seemingly ignored my messages, has not blocked me. Some part of me wants to just keep sending messages to see if I can…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months ago

    I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided to give her the password to one of my game accounts that I no longer used; however, I had sacred memories and many of my works preserved on there, and she deleted…[Read more]

    Mood : Confused
    • Oli replied 9 months ago

      I would try to get a clear answer from this girl @jennyburer, hopefully she will be honest and open with you Alexandria, it’s really up to her if she decides to answer you so things can be made better, try to not worry too much, I’m always here if you need to talk, feel free to inbox me anytime :) (hugs)

    • Getting a clear answer from her would be amazing, but she keeps blocking me, and I don’t know how much I should really press on. Her boyfriend, who seems to be practically the only person she ever talks to, although having to seemingly ignored my messages, has not blocked me. Some part of me wants to just keep sending messages to see if I can…[Read more]

    • Interesting O_O
      Well Alexandria @jennyburer, If I may inquire… with what intent exactly are you approaching this scenario?
      Are you worried about the health of your friend?
      Are you saddened by the ‘betrayal’ and want ‘justification’ for it?
      Or,
      Are you curious about the mysterious behaviour of your friend?
      Or something else… what is…[Read more]

    • @SigmaSuccour
      I want to know if she hates me, because, like I said, I trusted her with a lot, so I’m a little bit on edge when it comes to the idea of her hating me. If I know that this wasn’t an act of vindictiveness, I feel like I can stop worrying.

    • @jennyburer
      I feel you. I suggest you put this aside and not focus upon it much, if she wishes to tell you about it herself. Good.
      But if she doesn’t… then don’t let this affect your life and your goals.
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      // I trusted her with a lot//
      > Then trust her still… have trust in her that whatever she has done, she must have done so with the…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer I think a good answer for all your doubts should be “Because she is the person who would do this”, it’s an answer that will let you try to move on and stop contacting people in her circle about it. You will not get an apology, just maybe eventually a scolding about you deserving it, probably after you stop looking for her as a way…[Read more]

    • @Oli @SigmaSuccour @rinseandrep Thank you all. I’ve decided that I’m moving on. She’s a closed chapter to me now.

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    Alexandria posted an update 1 year ago

    Why is it that whenever I’m trying to get over a breakup, I end up breaking someone else’s heart? It sucks because I know that when I do, I feel almost absolutely nothing but pity, and I can’t help but think that that’s what they felt too.

    Mood : Depressed
    • Oli replied 1 year ago

      Please don’t feel down @jennyburer, I’m sure you will overcome, you deserve a relationship that is strong, loving and secure, hopefully everything will work out and you will be able to have amazing bonds with people, smile and keep going, you can do it, never give up, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime if you want, my…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer probably cause you feel pain and without realising it you transfer it to other people when talking to them. You have to figure out a way to deal with your pain, like a hobby. Something that takes your pain away, even if it’s just for moments.
      I wish you the best of luck

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 1 year, 1 month ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update Last Thursday, I said goodbye to a guy after profusely apologizing to him for ”snooping.” He said he would need months to get over it. The only thing that keeps me from believing that […] View

    To give some background info, I found out that he was still logging onto his dating profile (I did not meet him on there), and I asked him questions on a second account on a chat program, and he said that he was single but that he wasn’t looking or taking anyone. However, he also said that he didn’t have someone special to him and he invited me…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 1 year, 1 month ago

    Last Thursday, I said goodbye to a guy after profusely apologizing to him for ”snooping.” He said he would need months to get over it. The only thing that keeps me from believing that he isn’t just bullshitting me is because I just desperately want to believe his shitty explanations. Otherwise, he wasn’t really a bad boyfriend. He was really sweet…[Read more]

    Mood : Curious
    • To give some background info, I found out that he was still logging onto his dating profile (I did not meet him on there), and I asked him questions on a second account on a chat program, and he said that he was single but that he wasn’t looking or taking anyone. However, he also said that he didn’t have someone special to him and he invited me…[Read more]

    • if i were you i’d think needing months to get over an issue would seem a bit dodgy (in my experience i didn’t really need months to resolve major issues with friends). if having serious and honest talks don’t work with them then yeah go detective mode, though try to be conspicuous about it… just my two cents – i’m praying for the best :)

    • Sounds proof enough that you are better off without him @jennyburer

    • I would try to work out your feelings and decide if he is truly the person for you @jennyburer, you deserve someone who will not mess you around or cheat on you, hopefully everything will work out and you will be happy going forward, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are…[Read more]

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