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    Alexandria posted an update 5 days, 8 hours ago

    Lesson learned: don’t expect that you’ll be special to someone just by being patient and loving. If someone is selfish, they are selfish. If you’re the one who’s constantly asking themselves if they’re doing something wrong, you’re putting way more effort into the relationship than the other person is. Don’t change yourself just because the other…[Read more]

    • He had absolutely no right to treat badly @jennyburer, you deserve someone who will show you love and support Alexandria, focus on the things that bring you happiness, stand up for yourself and don’t let anyone bring you down, I’m sure you will meet your soulmate, a strong relationship with a wonderful partner will come your way, smile and keep…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer ”If someone is selfish, they are selfish” – you said everything here. Don’t waist time on someone like that, you deserve much more than that

    • @mariko and @oliver is right he’s selfish and you truly deserve better. My past
      relationship was very similar to yours and it left me so mentally unstable that i could’ve died. You know it’s wrong which is the 1st step because a lot of people don’t even know that. Get out of that relationship NOW!

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    Alexandria posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Why can’t breakups ever be peaceful?

    Mood : Sad
    • Try to stay friendly and peaceful with each other @jennyburer, I’m sure things will work out for the both of you, some relationships are difficult but in the end, the people involved all deserve happiness, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Sadly, most of the time they’re not but with time, everything gets better.

    • @jennyburer The pride gets in the way most of the times, such as drama :/ . I hope you recover though , and if you ever need help you can message me

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    Alexandria posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Anyone I can talk to who is almost always available?

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    Alexandria posted an update 5 months ago

    Paranoia has always been my worst enemy. My mind has refused to be silent these past few days. Every time my mind starts to get peaceful, I remember that I was worried and angry about something. And I start worrying again. I know that I’ll get over this, but I’ve been through this before, and I know it usually takes at least a month for my mind to…[Read more]

    Mood : Anxious
    • Oli replied 5 months ago

      Don’t let your worries or struggles get you down @jennyburer, try to relax and calm yourself, find ways to put your mind at ease, maybe listening to something soothing or meditation will help, you will be OK Alexandria because you are a survivor, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always…[Read more]

    • Have you looked into speaking with someone who can help alleviate some of these tendencies? Maybe a professional, or looking into common techniques that might work from you from people who have felt similarly. There might be a way for you to get some help living with these bouts of paranoia. A month seems like quite some time to be in that state.

    • //Paranoia has always been my worst enemy.// @jennyburer
      > Your mindset, world view, thoughts and actions are the reason you are where you are today. If you want to be at the same place tomorrow, you keep those mindsets, you keep those world views, you keep doing those actions.
      But if you want to bring a change in yourself, if you want to be…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    @Oli @SigmaSuccour @rinseandrep Thank you all. I’ve decided that I’m moving on. She’s a closed chapter to me now.

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    @SigmaSuccour
    I want to know if she hates me, because, like I said, I trusted her with a lot, so I’m a little bit on edge when it comes to the idea of her hating me. If I know that this wasn’t an act of vindictiveness, I feel like I can stop worrying.

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    Alexandria posted an update 5 months ago

    Vent/Listen Chat not working for anyone else?

    Mood : Annoyed
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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided […] View

    Getting a clear answer from her would be amazing, but she keeps blocking me, and I don’t know how much I should really press on. Her boyfriend, who seems to be practically the only person she ever talks to, although having to seemingly ignored my messages, has not blocked me. Some part of me wants to just keep sending messages to see if I can…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 5 months ago

    I knew this girl for six years. We never lost contact with each other within those six years. Having known her for so long, and having confided in her with my secrets before, I decided to give her the password to one of my game accounts that I no longer used; however, I had sacred memories and many of my works preserved on there, and she deleted…[Read more]

    Mood : Confused
    • Oli replied 5 months ago

      I would try to get a clear answer from this girl @jennyburer, hopefully she will be honest and open with you Alexandria, it’s really up to her if she decides to answer you so things can be made better, try to not worry too much, I’m always here if you need to talk, feel free to inbox me anytime :) (hugs)

    • Getting a clear answer from her would be amazing, but she keeps blocking me, and I don’t know how much I should really press on. Her boyfriend, who seems to be practically the only person she ever talks to, although having to seemingly ignored my messages, has not blocked me. Some part of me wants to just keep sending messages to see if I can…[Read more]

    • Interesting O_O
      Well Alexandria @jennyburer, If I may inquire… with what intent exactly are you approaching this scenario?
      Are you worried about the health of your friend?
      Are you saddened by the ‘betrayal’ and want ‘justification’ for it?
      Or,
      Are you curious about the mysterious behaviour of your friend?
      Or something else… what is…[Read more]

    • @SigmaSuccour
      I want to know if she hates me, because, like I said, I trusted her with a lot, so I’m a little bit on edge when it comes to the idea of her hating me. If I know that this wasn’t an act of vindictiveness, I feel like I can stop worrying.

    • @jennyburer
      I feel you. I suggest you put this aside and not focus upon it much, if she wishes to tell you about it herself. Good.
      But if she doesn’t… then don’t let this affect your life and your goals.
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      // I trusted her with a lot//
      > Then trust her still… have trust in her that whatever she has done, she must have done so with the…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer I think a good answer for all your doubts should be “Because she is the person who would do this”, it’s an answer that will let you try to move on and stop contacting people in her circle about it. You will not get an apology, just maybe eventually a scolding about you deserving it, probably after you stop looking for her as a way…[Read more]

    • @Oli @SigmaSuccour @rinseandrep Thank you all. I’ve decided that I’m moving on. She’s a closed chapter to me now.

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months ago

    Why is it that whenever I’m trying to get over a breakup, I end up breaking someone else’s heart? It sucks because I know that when I do, I feel almost absolutely nothing but pity, and I can’t help but think that that’s what they felt too.

    Mood : Depressed
    • Please don’t feel down @jennyburer, I’m sure you will overcome, you deserve a relationship that is strong, loving and secure, hopefully everything will work out and you will be able to have amazing bonds with people, smile and keep going, you can do it, never give up, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime if you want, my…[Read more]

    • @jennyburer probably cause you feel pain and without realising it you transfer it to other people when talking to them. You have to figure out a way to deal with your pain, like a hobby. Something that takes your pain away, even if it’s just for moments.
      I wish you the best of luck

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update Last Thursday, I said goodbye to a guy after profusely apologizing to him for ”snooping.” He said he would need months to get over it. The only thing that keeps me from believing that […] View

    To give some background info, I found out that he was still logging onto his dating profile (I did not meet him on there), and I asked him questions on a second account on a chat program, and he said that he was single but that he wasn’t looking or taking anyone. However, he also said that he didn’t have someone special to him and he invited me…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months, 1 week ago

    Last Thursday, I said goodbye to a guy after profusely apologizing to him for ”snooping.” He said he would need months to get over it. The only thing that keeps me from believing that he isn’t just bullshitting me is because I just desperately want to believe his shitty explanations. Otherwise, he wasn’t really a bad boyfriend. He was really sweet…[Read more]

    Mood : Curious
    • To give some background info, I found out that he was still logging onto his dating profile (I did not meet him on there), and I asked him questions on a second account on a chat program, and he said that he was single but that he wasn’t looking or taking anyone. However, he also said that he didn’t have someone special to him and he invited me…[Read more]

    • if i were you i’d think needing months to get over an issue would seem a bit dodgy (in my experience i didn’t really need months to resolve major issues with friends). if having serious and honest talks don’t work with them then yeah go detective mode, though try to be conspicuous about it… just my two cents – i’m praying for the best :)

    • Sounds proof enough that you are better off without him @jennyburer

    • I would try to work out your feelings and decide if he is truly the person for you @jennyburer, you deserve someone who will not mess you around or cheat on you, hopefully everything will work out and you will be happy going forward, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    In reply to: Alexandria posted an update Said goodbye to someone I made my world. He says it’ll take him months to get over all that’s happened, and that he isn’t sure if we’re completely broken. I know that regardless, I […] View

    I think the part that hurts my brain the most is that I don’t know what to make out of this. It still sort of looks like he may have been cheating on me one way or another, but do I really want to tell myself that out of the three times that I’ve been really deeply invested in a guy (maybe even loved them), I was cheated on twice? Or do I want…[Read more]

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    In reply to: Oli posted an update The future is filled with so much sadness, loneliness and depression for me, I don’t feel happy and I never will, everything is so uncertain and I’m scared of where I will end up, what’s the […] View

    You’ve made a lot of people feel better on here, including myself. The world needs you, Oli. You deserve to be happy.

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    Alexandria posted an update 9 months, 1 week ago

    Said goodbye to someone I made my world. He says it’ll take him months to get over all that’s happened, and that he isn’t sure if we’re completely broken. I know that regardless, I should try to move on from him as best as I can, but when I wake up in the middle of the night, I’m just tossing and turning remembering how he looked, his tone,…[Read more]

    Mood : Anxious
    • I would do your best to move forward and focus on the bright future that lies ahead for you @jennyburer, I’m sure you will be able to have another relationship in the future, smile and remember all the good times you had with this person, perhaps you will still can be friends with them, I’m sure everything will work out for you, keep going and…[Read more]

    • I think the part that hurts my brain the most is that I don’t know what to make out of this. It still sort of looks like he may have been cheating on me one way or another, but do I really want to tell myself that out of the three times that I’ve been really deeply invested in a guy (maybe even loved them), I was cheated on twice? Or do I want…[Read more]

    • If he was cheating on you than you deserve a lot better @jennyburer, a relationship where you are truly cared for and loved will happen, you will meet your knight in shining armour, don’t give up :) (hugs)

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    Alexandria posted an update 10 months ago

    What’s with the listeners today? I used to come across some amazing people on BlahTherapy, but it’s been mostly trolls this morning.

    Mood : Annoyed
    • Don’t let horrible people on the chat get you down @jennyburer, that are so many more compassionate and lovely people who are willing to help and be there for you, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, feel free to message me anytime, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

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    Alexandria posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    In reply to: brezard posted an update hi, im here for anyone who needs to talk. about anything. View

    Hey, do you want to talk?

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    Alexandria started the forum topic Deleted in the group Group logoVent It! 1 year, 2 months ago

    Did not feel comfortable keeping this up here. Sorry!

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    Alexandria posted an update in the group Group logoVent It! 1 year, 2 months ago

    Have you ever had someone you once loved wound you deeply? That they made you feel like an insect with their words, and you simultaneously found out from their friends that they’d already met someone new, and that that person is sweet and beautiful, and that they’d met them before they dumped you? Have you ever felt like you were talking to a…[Read more]

    Mood : Enraged
    • You deserve someone who will treat you right and who will put you first @jennyburer, anyone who cheats on you isn’t worth it, I’m sure you will meet an amazing and special partner who will have your best interests at heart, I want the best for you, try to stay positive and keep smiling, things will work out, never give up, I’m always here if…[Read more]

    • Yes, I have. It’s not an easy thing to go through; I understand that.
      If you’d like to talk about it, you can always message me.

    • Yes…I had a boyfriend who totally did that to me..actually I had two relationships that did that…I was destroyed by the first one…the second I was just very angry at all the wasted time I gave the asshole…I have been hurt so many times it makes trusting anyone near impossible…

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    Alexandria replied to the forum topic Whatever. in the group Group logoVent It! 1 year, 3 months ago

    Thank you so much for your advice. I will try my best to take the next relationship slower, haha.

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