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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour
    I do have a moderate amount of responsibilities that keep me fairly busy for the most part considering I’m working and also a student, but more so I think the issue is that I haven’t taken the time to do anything. I would mostly say this is because I don’t know what to do, go in a room and sit and think for hours on end? It never…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour
    1) When did I realize? Umm perhaps in the beginning-ish of highschool when I started getting really theological and thinking about my reality and my life rather than how kids work where they don’t really then just kinda work with what they have and have fun.

    2) how did I figure out I wouldn’t be successful/what is my definition?…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour well I did mention two aspects of it but I try to elaborate a little more, things like feeling worthless, like everything is pointless, like everything I’ve done is a mistake, like nothing is worth living for, like I’m insignificant or irrelevant, like I’ll never be successful, unmotivated, numb, easily discouraged, that’s all…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour All of this is very useful and all and I’ll likely try to apply it in other aspects of my life, but it sort of misses the mark. I understand though that I can be difficult given like you said I haven’t mentioned a specific situation, but I suppose I don’t have one specific situation in mind. I suppose I should ask given what you…[Read more]

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    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour I see what you’re saying. The issue that I seem to run into however is that I don’t often need to support of others, like I said in my other message in most situations myself is enough. But the issue is that sometimes I reach a state that’s intense enough that I’m not enough, that anything encouraging I say doesn’t feel real, like…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    In reply to: Oli posted an update I’m always going to feel lost forever, my life is just filled with sadness and hopelessness, drowning in this dark abyss of pain, depression and loneliness, everything is just so bleak, I […] View

    @oliver I can attest to what @marikofujimoto says, a year ago around this time I was facing an issue that I seem to be facing again Ironically and you had posted a reply, and while it may not have been personalized since you don’t/didn’t know me, it still helped. I may not be very good at consoling or helping people since I often find that I’m…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    In reply to: Zhialus posted an update Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even […] View

    @sigmasuccour Not sure if you’re still around but I appreciate this message, more now upon my return than I had at the time, I had been clouded by my attachment and I took some of the things you said somewhat insultingly towards my feelings, but now, being slightly more mature and seeing things in a different light I find myself appreciating the…[Read more]

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    Zhialus posted an update 1 year ago

    Anyone have any good coping mechanisms for when the one significant person in your life leaves you without word or reason? There was a point in my life where I was complacent and even happy sometimes with being isolated and lacking a deeper connection but after this person I just really can’t seem to find my way back to that comfortable solitude.…[Read more]

    Mood : Alone
    • Oli replied 1 year ago

      Anyone who leaves you isn’t worth it @etherealpanda, you deserve to be surrounded by people who will stick by you and bring you love, hope and happiness, do your best to be upbeat and go out into the world, find new activities and meet new friends, smile and know you are cared for, I may not know you personally but I want the best for you,…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      If that significant person’ is someone you are sexually attracted to, then its a special case…
      Hence having a vague idea about your case, I will list all the general reasons in my artillery of knowledge, of why one may suffer stress for the leaving of a loved one.
      Here we go!
      1) Dependency: If you are, in any shape or form,…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour Not sure if you’re still around but I appreciate this message, more now upon my return than I had at the time, I had been clouded by my attachment and I took some of the things you said somewhat insultingly towards my feelings, but now, being slightly more mature and seeing things in a different light I find myself appreciating the…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      //Not sure if you’re still around//
      > Sorry for the late reply.
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      //but in my case and how I see your message dependency comes of as being a negative state//
      > I do believe its a ‘negative’ and ‘unhealthy’ state if you attribute its solution to another person’s presence. And let me illustrate to you why,
      Interacting with…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour I see what you’re saying. The issue that I seem to run into however is that I don’t often need to support of others, like I said in my other message in most situations myself is enough. But the issue is that sometimes I reach a state that’s intense enough that I’m not enough, that anything encouraging I say doesn’t feel real, like…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      I’m getting the picture.
      How do I deal with such situations, where I’m working towards a goal and things aren’t working out? (Again, since you are being completely vague about your situation. I have to generalize as well.)
      I have certain principles that I follow that help me with these kind of things.
      1) Before doing…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour All of this is very useful and all and I’ll likely try to apply it in other aspects of my life, but it sort of misses the mark. I understand though that I can be difficult given like you said I haven’t mentioned a specific situation, but I suppose I don’t have one specific situation in mind. I suppose I should ask given what you…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      ‘Depression’ is a label. And labels sometime try to simplify something, that has more description to it. So what is this ‘depression’ that ‘you’ experience exactly? What exact experiences do you have, that you attribute to the label of ‘depression’? Could you throw away the name of the dish itself, and tell me all of its…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour well I did mention two aspects of it but I try to elaborate a little more, things like feeling worthless, like everything is pointless, like everything I’ve done is a mistake, like nothing is worth living for, like I’m insignificant or irrelevant, like I’ll never be successful, unmotivated, numb, easily discouraged, that’s all…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      Sure! I have experienced most of that, and plenty more. (Including suicidal thoughts & porn addiction & verbal discouragement from my family & physical abuse from bullying.) And I wonder who hasn’t XD (Excluding people who had such a hard time surviving, that they didn’t have the opportunity to address these thoughts.)
      First I…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour
      1) When did I realize? Umm perhaps in the beginning-ish of highschool when I started getting really theological and thinking about my reality and my life rather than how kids work where they don’t really then just kinda work with what they have and have fun.

      2) how did I figure out I wouldn’t be successful/what is my definition?…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      The purpose of these questions was to help you realize, that you do not have ‘a’ problem. You have ‘many’ problems. Each problem needs to be separately addressed, one by one. Even the fact that you have not ‘individually’ addressed these issues and solved them up until now, is an issue. (Which I would like to tackle…[Read more]

    • @sigmasuccour
      I do have a moderate amount of responsibilities that keep me fairly busy for the most part considering I’m working and also a student, but more so I think the issue is that I haven’t taken the time to do anything. I would mostly say this is because I don’t know what to do, go in a room and sit and think for hours on end? It never…[Read more]

    • @etherealpanda
      // I would mostly say this is because I don’t know what to do, go in a room and sit and think for hours on end?//
      > Yupe!
      .
      //It never seems to get me anywhere.//
      You did something, found out it didn’t work. So you try something else. That’s the basics of reaching any goal. (Here your ‘goal’ would be fixing an issue in your…[Read more]

    • *but because you haven’t realized it, your issues are still there.” (Made a BIG ERROR in this line. Its ”your issues are still there.”)

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    Zhialus posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    In reply to: Travelling Girl posted an update I constantly feel like I’m a burden and nobody likes me. Even though I’m an adult, I feel like I’m back in high school sometimes. I’m so sick of being lonely. But every time I try […] View

    I totally feel you there so you’re not alone, I’ve just been through practically the same situation, and am processing the same emotions. Its actually the reason I’m here tonight so its funny I ran into your post. Im not sure if its any help, but something that helped me just a little when I was feeling particularly bad is I typed out about a…[Read more]

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    X posted an update 3 years, 4 months ago

    Getting my wisdom teeth pulled, super nervous, atleast I’ll only be conscious for the shot D:

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    In reply to: X posted an update That person you like that’ll most likely never like you back ): View

    I tried but they’re super hard to talk to and it seems like they don’t want to talk I mean they never said that but I don’t wanna be annoying because they already didn’t answer two of my messages

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    X posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    That person you like that’ll most likely never like you back ):

    Mood : Gloomy
    • You should talk to them! Get to know them, find out what they like and see if you like those things too!

    • I tried but they’re super hard to talk to and it seems like they don’t want to talk I mean they never said that but I don’t wanna be annoying because they already didn’t answer two of my messages

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    X posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    Starting the day with a positive attitude! :) lets just hope it lasts

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    X posted a new activity comment 3 years, 7 months ago

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    Yeah I guess your right :)

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    X posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    When things going so well all of the sudden turn terrible

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