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    Theodore posted an update 6 years, 8 months ago

    Honest question, guys. If you’re into someone, can you ever just hang out, cuddle up, and watch a movie together at home without feeling obligated to have sex? Is that just a thing of the past?

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    • side note: I’m pretty much never the one who wants to have sex first, in case that’s unclear…

    • You can just spend time with the person @princepossum, cuddle up, be there for them and get to know them so you can make your bond stronger Theodore, hope this relationship works out for you, you are a wonderful person who deserves a loving partner, smile and keep going, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • yes you can.. there are many people who identify as being asexual and prefer to just cuddle… asexuality is a spectrum. I am on the spectrum, I prefer cuddling and getting to know the person.

    • @spectrolite7 I am familiar with asexuality, but I’m not asexual, I just wish people would slow down sometimes lol

    • @oliver thanks man

    • the goal of attraction and seduction is to end up in the bedroom. a man can sleep with a woman at the drop of a hat, whereas women take time to warm up to men and feel safe, comfortable and be able to trust him to be able to get emotionally interested in the guy and to become interested in sex with that particular guy. A woman is going to have sex with a guy only when she feels ready, comfortable, safe and she can trust the guy.
      The sex is naturally going to happen, whether it’s the first, second or third date if there is really good chemistry between ya’ll. But at the end of the day, you can still hang out with someone you’re attracted to by cuddling and watching movies but the other person might think you’re just looking for a friendship. If you’re feeling obligated to have sex, then that person is in some way, shape or form pressuring you or forcing you to have sex with them. At the end of the day, you have the power to say No if you don’t want to have sex. But i tell you one thing, if a girl was cuddling with me and gave me the look 20 minutes into Netflix and chill, i’m going to give her what she wants lolol

    • @javi-soliz good reply.. thanks man, it seems pretty variable, things are never just black and white haha

    • I think you definitely can! (: it all depends on the person you’re doing it with. Nowadays a lot of people are quick to rush everything(No shame on them, to each their own<3) but there's a bunch of people in this world I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for (:

    • when it comes to women, they never are. but that’s what i like about em. but thanks theodore, no problem hermano.