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    Gleb posted an update 7 years, 4 months ago

    I need a day off. Seriously. Dealing with missing the closest person on earth can be really overwhelming at times. I want to look her in the eye and see if my presence mattered even the slightest bit. I’m almost sure a part of it did. I want her to tell me the truth about the significance of my presence.
    But she lives overseas. And I don’t have the money to afford the flight.

    I wonder how long it’ll take for me to recover from this one.

    • @gleb dating overseas doesn’t make it impossible. Makes it incredibly hard, but not impossible. Tell her how you feel Gleb

    • I agree with @marikofujimoto, tell her how you truly feel @gleb, let her know that you want to spend time with her, I’m sure you will be able to see her at an appropriate point Gleb, long distance relationships can work, hopefully things will become stronger between the two of you Gleb, I wish you all the best, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent :) (hugs)

    • We didn’t date but I did write to her how i felt.
      Here’s what I wrote:
      ”Hey Hannah
      You must be wondering why I deleted you. You have the right to know everything. I’m tired of always being second option. I was ready to take a bullet for you and commit all my life to you. Yet after you told me you knew Adriel for 5 years, I understood that no matter how much I tried, I couldn’t have made a deeper bond with you than the one you already share with him. I’ve always tried to change and make you happy. I always tried to forgive you if you ever unknowingly hurt me somehow.
      But I’m just tired. You’ll always have a deeper bond with him. For once in my life I want to be someone’s priority, love them as much as I loved you and to be equally loved back.
      And you know something? I still love you. As much as I did before. And if I could stay, I would. Maybe you don’t believe me. You don’t have to believe it.
      But I understood that if I stayed, it would hurt me more than just ending it. I’m sorry.
      In your long response earlier, you said I’d meet new people with whom I’d make deep bonds in the future. This was one of the parts that hurt the most to read. As if you were indifferent to our friendship.
      Don’t feel bad about it. You have Jasmine, Derick, Mauricia and Adriel. And probably some other friends I’m not aware of. One day someone will take my place. You’ll meet someone who will.
      If it makes you feel better, nobody will replace you in my heart. Remember that you’re not the failure your family thinks you are. You’re great. But one thing you have to change in yourself is to notice the details in your friends’ behaviour and be more observant towards them. Please take care of yourself.”

      I was wrong to blame this Adriel guy for everything. Only recently I understood she couldn’t deal with my nature as a human.