May I ask you something that I am having a bit trouble understanding? @flameaura Its just that… I do not understand why you are asking such a question here, and not to your friends who may have a much better answer. Would you ease my crankiness due to my ignorance in this matter?
// I don’t want them to know I’m upset or sound demanding// @flameaura > Engineer your sentence to ’not’ sound demanding, and engineer it so you sound ’ignorant’ and ’confused’. (like i just did above ) Did i sound demanding while asking something I did not understand? (as i did above) Going to leave you some rhetorical questions for you to think about along with this :3 > Is your friendship with those people, really that thin-threaded that you cannot even question such a thing? Does the ’value’ of your friendship, depends on how much money they are willing to spend with you? Do you decide how much people value you, based on the sacrifices they make for you? Do you not trust your friends? Don’t you trust them, that whatever decision they make, they make it with good reason and intention? Don’t you, as a friend, trust them that much? (if they aren’t reasonable people… then you cannot expect a reasonable behaviour from them… if they are reasonable and conscious people, then you can trust them can’t you?)
@flameaura i think it’s fair enough if everyone spends an equal amount, and more if they are incredibly nice and/or just doing you a favour. when i went out with my friends we all split the costs because we were all poor as fuck, or back when i didn’t have a job before i would just ask them to shout me small things as i would do for them from time to time
@sigmasuccour Ummm that’s smart. Hey why don’t you engineer the sentence for me? I can’t English anymore. (if you know what I mean) >.> Don’t understand the question. Yes, in a way? The fact that they’re willing to spend, even if they aren’t wealthy, really means something. I don’t know if I’m answering correctly. Pretty much that’s the case. That question makes me feel like maybe I have trust issues…
@yamoros12 Nah it’s nothing to do with who spends more. Each of us always pay our own costs when we go out. So we’re equal in terms of expenditure. I don’t expect any more from them than that. You’ve really nice friends btw
@flameaura //I can’t English anymore. // > BUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! XD (funny way to put it) . //Hey why don’t you engineer the sentence for me?// > Sure! I would like to get some details before constructing one though. Do you intend to message them? (through social media or e-mail or phone?) or do you intend to ask them face to face? And, imagine that i’m one of your ’friends’ (that we are engineering the sentence for), how would you ask me about your confusion? (Note: Don’t think, just type. I just want to use the details from your message to construct a more ’ignorant’ sounding version of it XD ) makes sense? . //The fact that they’re willing to spend, even if they aren’t wealthy// > Wow! you actually took my questions in a healthy way O_O *Claps* (thank you for that) ahem!…. another question! (in answer to your answer) do you really believe that you are soo awesome, that your friends would have the urge to make sacrifices for you? would you say you have reached such a height of awesomeness for them (yet)? . //That question makes me feel like maybe I have trust issues…// > Might there be something blocking you to trust them on this? O_O What do you think that ’blockage’ might be? any ideas? (bad history?)
Do try to get your friends to split the cost of something when you are out together @flameaura, that way it will be fair on everyone equally, hope things go OK, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, inbox me anytime (hugs)
@sigmasuccour Yeah I talk to them through WhatsApp. Um… How is it expensive? Having fun is all that matters, right? There’s no harm since it’s only for a day. You may regret not tagging along. :p I think I’ve almost reached that level of awesomeness. They’re usually the ones who initiate a hangout. They try their very best to remember each other’s birthdays. XD But it seems like they aren’t willing to sacrifice their money this time round. Errrrrrr I doubt there’s any bad history. I guess it’s because we haven’t interacted in a long while. And it’s unusual for them to turn down a meetup, especially because of the costs.
Of course @oliver, we each pay our own costs; we don’t pay for one another. It’s just that this time round, they’re unwilling to pay their own share because they deem it as too expensive. I don’t understand why though… This was never an issue for me.
@flameaura First of all… I super, SUPER apologize for the SUPER DUPER late reply! ”Hey, I have been thinking lately, and i’m curious to ask that, for having fun with my friends, If I had the extra cash in me pocket, I wouldn’t have second thoughts about using it to have a blast of day! I would use that money to reassure myself and my friends and reinforce the idea that, no matter how tough life gets, we can still have these fragments of fun days which would serve as fuel to empower us to go on with our life more positively! I just don’t see any harm in doing all that. I believe its worth the money. You (or ’you guys’) on the other hand, wouldn’t do that. Correct? You guys wouldn’t be willing to spend the money on such a thing. I’m sure what you do, you do with good reason and good intention. And as a friend, I would just like to try and understand that. I would like to know your reasons and intentions so I can understand you better. I feel that is my duty as a friend and if I don’t at least try to understand, I would feel burdened. So I would just like to know what thoughts go through your head, that stop you from doing what I do with the money. And where else would you be more willing to use that money?(i hope the question makes sense) I hope I don’t sound forceful, I don’t mean to be. You can ignore this message if you don’t want to reply, and that will be okay, I would still feel better knowing that I tried.” . Is the message, sorta… alright? O_O . //I think I’ve almost reached that level of awesomeness.// > :O *claps* congratulations! that’s awesometacular! oh that’s right! once you are ’awesome!’, next stop is ’awesome-tacular!’
@sigmasuccour A little too long, but it’s fine! I especially like the last line. Thank you sooooo much for the help! Anyway, while you were away, I actually managed to find another (old) friend to tag along! I’m so glad that she understands my sentiments. I’m so excited to meet her. Hope we reach the awesome-tacular level of friendship.
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May I ask you something that I am having a bit trouble understanding? @flameaura
Its just that… I do not understand why you are asking such a question here, and not to your friends who may have a much better answer.
Would you ease my crankiness due to my ignorance in this matter?
@sigmasuccour I don’t want them to know I’m upset or sound demanding. I feel that they value money more than friendship.
// I don’t want them to know I’m upset or sound demanding// @flameaura
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> Engineer your sentence to ’not’ sound demanding, and engineer it so you sound ’ignorant’ and ’confused’. (like i just did above
Did i sound demanding while asking something I did not understand? (as i did above)
Going to leave you some rhetorical questions for you to think about along with this :3
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Is your friendship with those people, really that thin-threaded that you cannot even question such a thing?
Does the ’value’ of your friendship, depends on how much money they are willing to spend with you?
Do you decide how much people value you, based on the sacrifices they make for you?
Do you not trust your friends? Don’t you trust them, that whatever decision they make, they make it with good reason and intention? Don’t you, as a friend, trust them that much? (if they aren’t reasonable people… then you cannot expect a reasonable behaviour from them… if they are reasonable and conscious people, then you can trust them can’t you?)
@flameaura i think it’s fair enough if everyone spends an equal amount, and more if they are incredibly nice and/or just doing you a favour. when i went out with my friends we all split the costs because we were all poor as fuck, or back when i didn’t have a job before i would just ask them to shout me small things as i would do for them from time to time
@sigmasuccour Ummm that’s smart. Hey why don’t you engineer the sentence for me? I can’t English anymore. (if you know what I mean) >.>
Don’t understand the question.
Yes, in a way? The fact that they’re willing to spend, even if they aren’t wealthy, really means something. I don’t know if I’m answering correctly.
Pretty much that’s the case.
That question makes me feel like maybe I have trust issues…
@yamoros12 Nah it’s nothing to do with who spends more. Each of us always pay our own costs when we go out. So we’re equal in terms of expenditure. I don’t expect any more from them than that. You’ve really nice friends btw
@flameaura
//I can’t English anymore. //
> BUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! XD (funny way to put it)
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//Hey why don’t you engineer the sentence for me?//
> Sure! I would like to get some details before constructing one though.
Do you intend to message them? (through social media or e-mail or phone?) or do you intend to ask them face to face?
And, imagine that i’m one of your ’friends’ (that we are engineering the sentence for), how would you ask me about your confusion? (Note: Don’t think, just type. I just want to use the details from your message to construct a more ’ignorant’ sounding version of it XD ) makes sense?
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//The fact that they’re willing to spend, even if they aren’t wealthy//
> Wow! you actually took my questions in a healthy way O_O
*Claps* (thank you for that) ahem!….
another question! (in answer to your answer) do you really believe that you are soo awesome, that your friends would have the urge to make sacrifices for you? would you say you have reached such a height of awesomeness for them (yet)?
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//That question makes me feel like maybe I have trust issues…//
> Might there be something blocking you to trust them on this? O_O
What do you think that ’blockage’ might be? any ideas? (bad history?)
Do try to get your friends to split the cost of something when you are out together @flameaura, that way it will be fair on everyone equally, hope things go OK, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, inbox me anytime
(hugs)
@sigmasuccour Yeah I talk to them through WhatsApp. Um… How is it expensive? Having fun is all that matters, right? There’s no harm since it’s only for a day. You may regret not tagging along. :p
I think I’ve almost reached that level of awesomeness. They’re usually the ones who initiate a hangout. They try their very best to remember each other’s birthdays. XD But it seems like they aren’t willing to sacrifice their money this time round.
Errrrrrr I doubt there’s any bad history. I guess it’s because we haven’t interacted in a long while. And it’s unusual for them to turn down a meetup, especially because of the costs.
Of course @oliver, we each pay our own costs; we don’t pay for one another. It’s just that this time round, they’re unwilling to pay their own share because they deem it as too expensive. I don’t understand why though… This was never an issue for me.
@flameaura
First of all… I super, SUPER apologize for the SUPER DUPER late reply!
”Hey, I have been thinking lately, and i’m curious to ask that,
for having fun with my friends, If I had the extra cash in me pocket, I wouldn’t have second thoughts about using it to have a blast of day! I would use that money to reassure myself and my friends and reinforce the idea that, no matter how tough life gets, we can still have these fragments of fun days which would serve as fuel to empower us to go on with our life more positively!
I just don’t see any harm in doing all that. I believe its worth the money.
You (or ’you guys’) on the other hand, wouldn’t do that. Correct? You guys wouldn’t be willing to spend the money on such a thing.
I’m sure what you do, you do with good reason and good intention. And as a friend, I would just like to try and understand that. I would like to know your reasons and intentions so I can understand you better.
I feel that is my duty as a friend and if I don’t at least try to understand, I would feel burdened.
So I would just like to know what thoughts go through your head, that stop you from doing what I do with the money. And where else would you be more willing to use that money?(i hope the question makes sense)
I hope I don’t sound forceful, I don’t mean to be. You can ignore this message if you don’t want to reply, and that will be okay, I would still feel better knowing that I tried.”
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Is the message, sorta… alright? O_O
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//I think I’ve almost reached that level of awesomeness.//
> :O *claps* congratulations! that’s awesometacular! oh that’s right! once you are ’awesome!’, next stop is ’awesome-tacular!’
@sigmasuccour A little too long, but it’s fine! I especially like the last line. Thank you sooooo much for the help!
Anyway, while you were away, I actually managed to find another (old) friend to tag along! I’m so glad that she understands my sentiments. I’m so excited to meet her. Hope we reach the awesome-tacular level of friendship.
Awesome! XD @flameaura
Glad to be of service *thumbs up*