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    Travelling Girl posted an update 7 years, 9 months ago

    I need advice. Tonight was awful. I had plans with the guy I’m seeing. I took an hour to get ready, then drove to my apartment to meet him (I’m currently dog sitting in another town). I waited 3 hours there and he didn’t show up. He texted me a few times and basically cancelled by saying ”eh it’s kinda late” (it was around 9pm and we were supposed to meet at 6pm). The only reason it was late was because he never showed up. I feel disgusted. I feel so let down. We have been going out for 2 months and sometimes he’s great and kind…other times he is a total asshole. I just end up feeling like I did everything wrong and it’s all my fault.

    Here is what I need help with. After he cancelled, even though I was crying and devastated, I remained calm through text. I said ”Okay, I’ll head back to *where I’m dog sitting*” and he replied ”okay cool, enjoy the air conditioning :) haha”
    WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? How do I respond to that??? It’s 10:30pm now and I’m livid. Please suggest what I can say to him without ”poking the bear” so to speak. He gets mad easily. I appreciate your help!

    Mood : Disappointed
    • I would talk to him and tell him how you feel @simplegirl, he really should have showed up to meet you, maybe he will keep his promise to you next time if you explain how upset you were to him, hope everything works out in your relationship and it becomes stronger going forward, do stay positive and don’t give up, I’m always here if you need to chat or vent, message me anytime, my inbox is always open, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • sounds to me like he doesn’t give a shit, leaving you hanging after organizing something together then not having a good enough excuse. not even sounding half apologetic about it, act with discretion @simplegirl .

    • @simplegirl Yeah be honest about how you felt when he didn’t value your time and efforts, so he doesn’t think he can do it again because you’ll be super okay with it. And if he gets all confrontational, can’t seem to apologize, and makes it all about you, red flag.